This thought randomly came to me while watching a movie tonight. What are you leaving behind in 2021? So many of us plan New Year’s goals and resolutions but do we stop for a minute to think about what we don’t want to bring with us? My fiance and I discussed what we want to leave behind this year and, I will share mine with you.
- Fear: I realized fear is the basis for the things I’m leaving behind. We all experience fear, at least a healthy amount of it. Once it starts interfering with your daily life, recon needs to happen.
- Not standing up for myself more: This was a rollercoaster for me over the years. This year, I learned how to stand up for myself more than ever and not take bullshit from anyone. I have tolerated a lot in my life. I decided not anymore. Some people tend to get off on others that don’t speak up for themselves. Moving forward, I will not be keeping silent about how anyone or anything makes me feel. You shouldn’t either.
- Dumbing myself down: 😮💨 This is something I struggled with for quite some time. It started when I moved to this country. I didn’t realize what I was doing until I got to college. I’m smart. There are no “ifs, and’s or buts” about it; however, I found myself dumbing myself down to make others around me comfortable. I wish I could go back in time and give myself a good shaking. Tip: Don’t do it. Be unapologetic about who are, your skills, and your abilities.
- Second-guessing myself: I struggled with this for some time simply because I allowed myself to listen and absorb the opinions of others. Telling me what they think I should do or talking me out of things I’ve decided. I could’ve done so many more things in this life if I didn’t allow people’s thoughts and opinions to infiltrate my decisions. The good news is that I can and will do those things.
- Wondering what people will say or think: Nobody likes to admit this one, but at some point in our lives, we have all asked, “what do or would others think about me?”. This kind of fear gives the opinions of others an unknowing power over us. Sure, it’s nice to seek WISE counsel or advice from the trusted people in your life; however, the final decision is yours. Remember that. I have learned and still learning to take it to God first and always.
- Imposter Syndrome: I have a blog post dedicated to this one here 👇🏾https://www.dailydoseofcozy.com/2021/12/13/imposter-syndrome%f0%9f%91%80/ Don’t be afraid to take up space in this world because there is room for all of us. Don’t let fear of inadequacy trick you into believing that you don’t deserve greatness because you do.
- Feeling guilty for saying no & explaining why I said it: I have gotten a lot better at this one; however, there are times where I will still try to explain why I said no, in an attempt not to make the other person feel bad (being an empath is hard sometimes). Do not let anyone make you feel bad for telling them no. Some people are so used to hearing yes, that the word no sends them into shock. Those people should hear no more often.
- Feeling uncomfortable for having confidence in myself: This may sound crazy to some, but I have had people try and make me feel bad for having self-confidence. I never grasped why some people hated when others had confidence, and loved themselves. They would try their hardest to bring that person down in every way. I finally concluded that people are projecting their insecurities on others. Remember this: when you love yourself, the world will try to convince you not to. On the flip side, if you don’t love yourself, they’ll still judge you and say you should love yourself more. The moral of the story is to keep loving yourself, whether people like it or not.
I hope this post can encourage you to take a look at your life and see what you need to leave behind. Drop a comment below letting me know what’s on your left behind list😊
xx,
Abi💕
Yes! Yes! Yes! Looks like you are leaving behind a lot of self-doubt and making room for some serious self-love and courage!
Heck yea! I really hope everyone can find the courage to do the same🤗
Wow exactly my thoughts! Fear, what others would think about me, did I offend anyone putting in the process of putting my foot down are all my weakness. Going to slowly but steadily change and leave everything in 2021. Happy New Year ❤️.
Fear can really be crippling but I am proud of you wanting and implementing change. Slow change is better than no change 👏🏾 Happy New Year to you ♥️
I would also love to leave all of these behind! Happy New Year!
Happy New Year🙂You’ve got this!
Thanks for sharing. I never really thought of “leaving things behind” as a way to start a new year. Many in this list that I need to leave behind. I saved this as a reminder.
It’s a good reminder to shed anything that doesn’t align with your purpose 🤍
This is a fantastic post!! I will be leaving behind the worry of what people might think too! There’s no need for that and I know the people I care about most believe in me 🙂
That is a great thing to remember. Those who care and truly know you, know what you’re capable of, the rest is just outside noise.
I am leaving behind anxiety and comparing myself to others! I would like to be more inspired by others than feeling like they did the right thing and I did not, so I want to shift my mindset around that 🙌🏻
I love this! Anxiety is also something I’m leaving behind as well. I’m rooting for you 🤍
I’m leaving behind comparing my life to others and all the negative beliefs I’ve gather over my lifetime. It’s time to trade them in for new beliefs of I can do anything I set my mind to doing!
Good for you Sherry! Cheers to new beliefs and crushing all your goals ☺️
This is fantastic!!!! I’ll be leaving behind the fear of failure. Especially when it comes to trying new things, either with a new school course, a business idea, etc
You got this! I believe in you❤️
This was so great to read — thank you! Yes to it all! I am planning/working on leaving so much behind that I need to let go of and I am focusing on health and healing for 2022. I am ready to move forward and this was so encouraging!
Thank you so much Molly! I am so happy this gave you some encouragement 🤗 you’ve got this! Here’s to a healthier, healed and prosperous 2022 🥂
The “saying no part and not feeling guilty about it” portion of your post resonated the most with me this year. it is something that I truly have worked on this year because I think as people, we are so good at people pleasing and always saying yes. We feel guilty for putting ourselves first and not being available for others as much. Great read!
Thank you! That is so true about feeling guilty for putting ourselves first. The way I see it, we cannot pour from an empty cup. Sometimes we give and give and nothing is being poured back into us. So here’s to putting ourselves first and making sure we’re okay before tending to others!
Beautiful post and such brilliant goals, I’ll definitely be following in your lead! To 2022!
Thank you 🤍Cheers to a beautiful 2022 🥂
All mentioned are important to leave behind. When we face these things it’s vital to recognize each to overcome them. Facing our fears is so important. Learning from each brings growth for sure. Loved this post. Happy and Healthy New Year! ☺️🎉
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I agree 100%! I am facing my fears head on and conquering them one by one. It’s quite liberating😊Happy New Year ✨🥂
That’s awesome you going to leave these things behind because that is a reason for failure. I wish you a wonderful year!
Thanks🙂have a wonderful new year yourself !
Great post, a different spin on the New Years Resolution theme! I’ll be leaving behind a habit I’ve formed of running down my own ideas as I even voice them. I’ll say things like, ‘this might be a rubbish suggestion, but,,,’ and I shouldn’t!
I’ll also be gently leaving a few people who don’t bring positivity into my life. No hard feelings, just a release.
It’s very cleansing to think about what you’ll leave in the past, isn’t it? Love and best wishes for the year ahead from this UK reader
Thank you Helen! I love that you’ve identified what you’ll be leaving behind 😊I am also leaving some people behind. Happy New Year🥂
Thank you for this! I need to hear this going into a new year. It’s time for some real growth!
You’re welcome 🤍I wish you a growth filled, blessed and prosperous new year 😊
I am so glad for the growth and progress I see in these thoughts you share! Many of these are traits I am working on leaving behind as well. Thanks for the encouragement and sharing your heart!
Awe 🥺thank you so much! I wish you the very best as well🤍
I was hoping to leave my current job in 2021 and start a new job. But i guess fear took a whole on me. But i am heading into 2022 with a new mindset and courage to affect change.
That’s awesome Kevin! I have faith that you will get that new job, congratulations in advance🎉Full throttle in 2022 and saying no to fear all year long!
Great Post. I have never thought of what one is leaving behind in 2021.
You are leaving behind lots of things that stopped you from self growth. I am proud of you.
I am leaving behind toxic people and not putting myself first…..
Thank you so much🙂toxic people most definitely need to get left behind. We need peace in all aspect of our lives. Cheers to putting ourselves first 🥂